Found to Be: Joseph (Jesus’ Dad) and Silence

18 Now the birth of Jesus the Messiah took place in this way. When his mother Mary had been engaged to Joseph, but before they lived together, she was found to be pregnant from the Holy Spirit. 19 Her husband Joseph, being a righteous man and unwilling to expose her to public disgrace, planned to divorce her quietly. 20 But just when he had resolved to do this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary as your wife, for the child conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit. 21 She will bear a son, and you are to name him Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.” 22 All this took place to fulfill what had been spoken by the Lord through the prophet:

23 “Look, the virgin shall become pregnant and give birth to a son,
and they shall name him Emmanuel,”
which means, “God is with us.”

24 When Joseph awoke from sleep, he did as the angel of the Lord commanded him; he took her as his wife 25 but had no marital relations with her until she had given birth to a son, and he named him Jesus.

Matthew 1:18-25 (NRSVue)

My sermon from the Fourth Sunday of Advent (December 18, 2016) on Matthew 1:18-25.

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Is anyone here watching the tv show Crazy Ex-Girlfriend? The show tells the story of a young woman named Rebecca who gives up her life in New York City at an awesome law firm to head west, to West Covina, California, to hopefully find love with an old boyfriend she first met at summer camp. The show is full of drama, wacky situations, adult themes, and also…songs. Each episode has at least one character expressing their inner thoughts through song and dance. Even the opening credits are a musical number with a very 1920s feel with backup dancers resembling the Rockettes and a bouncy, uplifting tune that masks the trouble and drama Rebecca brings to her world. Now my favorite part of the opening credits is at the very end. The backup dancers are holding these giant cutout hearts. The camera is looking down at the dance team and we watch as the dancers move closer and closer, using their multiple hearts to form one giant heart…with the face of Rebecca’s old boyfriend in the middle. And then, out of the blue, Rebecca’s own face bursts through with a Blam! And then there’s silence for several uncomfortable moments. We just sit there, watching Rebecca’s face smile….and just when we think the credits should end and we should be at our first commercial break, we’re still there staring at her face. The silence lasts a little too long. It makes us, the viewers, feel uncomfortable. The whole thing is totally awkward…and we wonder if maybe our tvs froze up.

Silence…can be all sorts of things. It can be a blessing, like standing in our front lawns in the middle of a light snowfall before the snow plows and snow blowers disturb the suburban air. Silence can also be a source of horror, like the unnatural silence of shell shocked children that we see in videos documenting the obliteration of Eastern Aleppo in Syria. Silence is heavy and the heavier we’re in it, the more I want to break it, the more I want to fill that terrifying or joyous or peaceful or awkward moment with any kind of sound. And that’s an urge I felt while reading this passage from Matthew because, in today’s story, Joseph never says a word. Angels speak, his fiancee is pregnant, and he plans to breakup with her – there’s a lot going on here – but, through it all, Joseph is silent. The gospel according to Matthew doesn’t record Joseph ever saying a single word. The world is about to change. God is doing a brand new thing. And..through it all…there’s just….silence.

And that’s a bit awkward. So what do we do with that silence? Maybe we try to fill it in [like that skit from Saturday Night Live that aired two weeks ago. Emma Stone is Mary and, well, Mary is tired after giving birth. Visitors keep coming and Joseph keeps letting them in.] [Like in the SNL skit we saw today.] Joseph’s silence lets us expand their story. Since he says nothing, we give him words to say and emotions to experience. Joseph is our blank slate, inviting us to enter the story and be there when Joseph sees Mary pregnant for the first time, or when a dream tells him who Jesus will be, or when another dream, later on, tells him to gather Mary and Jesus and head to Egypt as a family of refugees escaping a rampaging King Herod. Joseph’s wordless experience of his story lets us put our words on his lips and, for a moment, play in the Christmas story.

Giving Joseph these kinds of words is something we should do. Scripture’s not just words on a page. Scripture is a story we are invited to experience over and over again. When we enter into Christ’s story, we experience God. But scripture also gives us space to not always rush into the story that is told. Because what would happen if we let Joseph stay….silent? What if we didn’t give him words? Joseph, a carpenter, finds out his fiancee is pregnant and he’s not the biological father. So he says nothing and, instead, tries to dismiss her quietly…making this whole thing…silent. But an angel comes and tells Joseph to make Jesus his son. And Joseph tells the angel nothing. Jesus is born and again, Joseph…says nothing. Described in this way, Joseph seems like…a bit of a lump. Amazing things are happening – and Joseph can’t get the energy to say something Matthew might want to write down. But if we let Joseph stay silent… if we curb our need to fill his awkward silence with our words… our feelings of awkwardness about his story can unlock one of the many mysteries of Christmas.
Because, one of the miracles of Christmas, is that God works, even in the silence. In moments of silence that are our own making or in those moments when we think God isn’t speaking – God is there. Our silence to God or God’s silence to us doesn’t mean God is absent. Silence, instead, is a moment where we’re invited to see everything that God can do. We might, sometimes, imagine our faith will always be like Mary when she first met the angel. Mary, according to Luke, entered into her calling with a fullness of speech and heart. But in those moments when we are not Mary, when we have no words to say, no words to describe what’s happening to us, no words to even make sense of the unbelievable – God is already there. When Joseph saw Mary and knew she was pregnant, there were no words that could fully capture what God was doing. Joseph’s first instinct was to dismiss her, send her away, but God’s word interceded. God stepped in, breaking into Joseph’s silence and his desire to make the whole situation silent, and, instead, propelled him into the future that God was already bringing about.

And this future God brings….is a future where awkwardness becomes the norm. Uncomfortable mysteries will be central to Jesus’ story. This child is going to grow up and hang out with the sick, the paralyzed, the demon possessed, and even when he isn’t supposed to, he will bring them love. Jesus will seek out the poor, the miserable, the broken and tell them good news. His ministry will take him from the shores of Galilee, to the lands of gentiles and outsiders, connecting him with immigrants and refugees, syrophoenician women and samaritans, and he will see them all as children of God. And, finally, when it will look like Jesus’ story will end, when the sky grows dark, and he takes his last breath on the cross, the silence of 3 days will be broken by a resurrection that women are the first to see. Even in the silences, even in the awkwardness, even in the horror, God’s future breaks through. God’s promise of presence and love was made real on that first Christmas morning. And in those moments when it feels like the dawn has yet to break, when silence turns from awkwardness to something eerie and full of dread, let’s remember to hold onto Joseph’s silence, a silence that propelled him to be a willing participant in the future God is creating, a future that we are called to live in even now. God’s future is a future full of love, a future full of grace, a future that looks like the community Jesus called around himself – a community where all are fed, all are cared for, and all are propelled to stop being silent so that we can be to others who Jesus is to us – an Emmanuel for the entire world.

Amen.

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What You Hear and See: Even John the Baptist has Questions.

When John heard in prison what the Messiah was doing, he sent word by his disciples and said to him, “Are you the one who is to come, or are we to wait for another?” Jesus answered them, “Go and tell John what you hear and see: the blind receive their sight, the lame walk, the lepers are cleansed, the deaf hear, the dead are raised, and the poor have good news brought to them. And blessed is anyone who takes no offense at me.”

As they went away, Jesus began to speak to the crowds about John: “What did you go out into the wilderness to look at? A reed shaken by the wind? What then did you go out to see? Someone dressed in soft robes? Look, those who wear soft robes are in royal palaces. What then did you go out to see? A prophet? Yes, I tell you, and more than a prophet. This is the one about whom it is written, ‘See, I am sending my messenger ahead of you, who will prepare your way before you.’ Truly I tell you, among those born of women no one has arisen greater than John the Baptist; yet the least in the kingdom of heaven is greater than he.

Matthew 11:2-11

My sermon from 3rd Sunday of Advent (December 11, 2016) on Matthew 11:2-11.

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In my house, I have this big wooden chest full of just…stuff. Inside it are records, used cds, a few books that are personally meaningful to me, and a smaller box full of random things – like senior pictures of my friends from high school and the setlist I pulled off the stage when I saw one of my favorite bands play. And on top of this smaller box rests something that’s important to me: and that’s my ticket stub collection. Inside 3 small binders are plastic sleeves stuffed with old tickets where the ink is barely readable. Each one represents an incredible series of memories: from my first arena rock show to the time my camera was smashed during a poorly thought out step straight into a moshpit. When I flip through my collection of ticket stubs, I’m reminded of everything I’ve seen; everything I’ve heard; and it makes me want to share those memories all over again. I end up bugging the people around me with stories like that time I sat on the floor of the Park Avenue Armory watching giant pieces of fabric fly over me, or when the lead guitarist of Kill Hannah accidentally kicked me in the face at the Limelight, or what it was like to visit CBGB’s for the first time. I feel compelled to narrate what I saw, paint a picture of what I experienced, and let the people around me know just how amazing, strange, terrible, or awesome this…show was. And after I tell my story, I usually end with something along the lines of “you should have just been there.” And in today’s text from Matthew, that’s basically how Jesus answers John. John wants clarification about who Jesus is. Is Jesus the one he’s been waiting for? And instead of just saying yes, Jesus tells him to look around, to listen, see what the Jesus experience is all about – and then he’ll know. 

Today’s story needs a little unpacking because it’s a bit out of place. We’re spending a short time, just two weeks, digging into parts of John the Baptist’s story. Last week, we saw John call a bunch of people names prior to baptizing them in the river Jordan. Today we’re still with John but we’re 8 chapters away. In the stories we don’t hear, John has already met Jesus and Jesus was baptized. As Jesus felt the water cover him, John and others heard a voice from heaven declare Jesus as God’s beloved child. Jesus, after his baptism, heads into the desert to be tempted by the devil while John continues his preaching, teaching, and baptizing. But the ruling authorities around John have different ideas. John’s arrested, thrown in prison, and Jesus, once he gets word of what happens to John, decides this is the time to begin his public ministry. According to Matthew, John’s arrest is the catalyst for Jesus’ work. The ruling authorities tried to silence what God is doing in the world – but God had other plans. 

So with John in prison, Jesus does…what Jesus does. He calls disciples. He heals the sick. He tells the poor that God is on their side. The world as God wants it to be is being expressed through what Jesus does. As his ministry grows and word about him spreads, John sits in prison…and he’s changed. The firey passion that defined his preaching in the wilderness is tempered. His confidence seems lower. And even though he was there when Jesus was baptized…John still needs to ask if Jesus is the one. Those in authority were hoping to silence John’s voice. They want him to stop speaking. And it…almost works because John doesn’t declare anything in today’s story. Instead, he just asks. 

And Jesus answers in a peculiar way. He doesn’t just say “Yes”. He also doesn’t remind John that John was there when Jesus was baptized so John should already get this. Jesus, instead, invites John’s messengers to report back what they see and what they hear. That phrase – that invitation – is also an invitation for us to not read through this text too quickly. If we read through too fast, we miss what Jesus’ invitation requires the messengers to do. If these messengers from John are going to report back what they see and hear – they need to take time to actually see and hear. They’re not invited to just share what Jesus said; they’re called to embed themselves in what Jesus is doing. John’s messengers need to meet the blind, meet the lame, meet the leapers, see the deaf, notice the dead, and form relationships with the poor to get what Jesus is doing. Jesus isn’t just doing miracles. He’s connecting with the marginalized, with the people society pushes to the outskirts, meeting those who don’t not just feel like outsiders but who truly are. Jesus is getting to know those who need healing, connection, and belonging – and he invites John’s messengers to do the same. John’s messengers, if they’re going to get Jesus, need to know who the blind are, who the lame are, who the poor are – and discover what good news actually looks like. John’s messengers are invited to do more than just answer John’s question. They’re invited to see how Jesus is making a difference right now. 

But this difference isn’t a difference only for John’s messengers. The text doesn’t tell us if John’s messengers were blind or lame or if any of them are poor. But I think the text wants us to assume that they are not. Jesus doesn’t tell John’s messengers to share how he’s made a difference to them. Jesus tells them to look around and see the difference he’s making in other people. Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is share how God has made a difference in our lives. But…that kind of testimony is something we can’t always give. In a moment of sorrow or loss or stress or complete busyness – we can lose our words, we can misplace our testimony, and we can wonder if we’ve ever met Jesus and question if he’s here right now. And it’s in this moment of wonder when Jesus’ words to John become Jesus’ words to us. When we can’t see Jesus in our lives, Jesus invites us to make our lives bigger and our relationships different. He tells us to form new relationships with people who aren’t like us. Because when we’re in relationship with the blind, the lame, the pushed-a-side of our world, Jesus promises that he is right there. When our testimony about Jesus is not enough, let’s change things up by giving testimony about how we’re seeing Jesus acting in and through the people around us. When a mom who escaped an abusive husband with only the clothes on her back is able to give her kid the new bike he wanted for Christmas, healing begins. When a student receives new school supplies and food to eat during the weekend, she receives an opportunity to become something new. When a recently unemployed father visits a food pantry for the very first time, the food he brings home lets him see a better future. And when a new immigrant or refugee enters their new home and finds a community of people with furniture, clothes, and invitations to connect them to their new homeland, their fear is changed into new life. What God is doing in the world isn’t limited to only our story. When the ticket stubs of our life of faith seem worn out, old, and no longer bring memories worthy to share, there are still new tickets we can find where we are not the focus of the main act. Through relationships, new and old, with people who are like us and people who are not, we are called to see Jesus in the care, in the mercy, in the sacrifices we make for our family, our friends, our neighbors, and complete strangers. Because Jesus’ story isn’t only a story about what happened 2000 years ago when he was born in a barn. And his story isn’t about some unknown future that might be coming 2000 years from now. Jesus is making a difference right now. We only have to open our eyes – open our ears – see – and hear. 

Amen.

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Opt-In: Why Visit John the Baptist?

In those days John the Baptist appeared in the wilderness of Judea, proclaiming, ‘Repent, for the kingdom of heaven has come near.’* This is the one of whom the prophet Isaiah spoke when he said,
‘The voice of one crying out in the wilderness:
“Prepare the way of the Lord,
make his paths straight.” ’
Now John wore clothing of camel’s hair with a leather belt around his waist, and his food was locusts and wild honey. Then the people of Jerusalem and all Judea were going out to him, and all the region along the Jordan, and they were baptized by him in the river Jordan, confessing their sins.

But when he saw many Pharisees and Sadducees coming for baptism, he said to them, ‘You brood of vipers! Who warned you to flee from the wrath to come? Bear fruit worthy of repentance. Do not presume to say to yourselves, “We have Abraham as our ancestor”; for I tell you, God is able from these stones to raise up children to Abraham. Even now the axe is lying at the root of the trees; every tree therefore that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire.

‘I baptize you with water for repentance, but one who is more powerful than I is coming after me; I am not worthy to carry his sandals. He will baptize you with the Holy Spirit and fire. His winnowing-fork is in his hand, and he will clear his threshing-floor and will gather his wheat into the granary; but the chaff he will burn with unquenchable fire.’

Matthew 3:1-12

My sermon from 2nd Sunday of Advent (December 4, 2016) on Matthew 3:1-12.

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Hurry Up and Wait: what’s the answer to ‘why continue?’

“But about that day and hour no one knows, neither the angels of heaven, nor the Son, but only the Father. For as the days of Noah were, so will be the coming of the Son of Man. For as in those days before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day Noah entered the ark, and they knew nothing until the flood came and swept them all away, so too will be the coming of the Son of Man. Then two will be in the field; one will be taken and one will be left. Two women will be grinding meal together; one will be taken and one will be left. Keep awake therefore, for you do not know on what day your Lord is coming. But understand this: if the owner of the house had known in what part of the night the thief was coming, he would have stayed awake and would not have let his house be broken into. Therefore you also must be ready, for the Son of Man is coming at an unexpected hour.

Matthew 24:36-44

My sermon from 1st Sunday of Advent (November 27, 2016) on Matthew 24:36-44.

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Today: a sermon on seeing kings and queens

When they came to the place that is called The Skull, they crucified Jesus there with the criminals, one on his right and one on his left. Then Jesus said, “Father, forgive them; for they do not know what they are doing.” And they cast lots to divide his clothing. And the people stood by, watching; but the leaders scoffed at him, saying, “He saved others; let him save himself if he is the Messiah of God, his chosen one!” The soldiers also mocked him, coming up and offering him sour wine, and saying, “If you are the King of the Jews, save yourself!” There was also an inscription over him, “This is the King of the Jews.” One of the criminals who were hanged there kept deriding him and saying, “Are you not the Messiah? Save yourself and us!” But the other rebuked him, saying, “Do you not fear God, since you are under the same sentence of condemnation? And we indeed have been condemned justly, for we are getting what we deserve for our deeds, but this man has done nothing wrong.” Then he said, “Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom.” He replied, “Truly I tell you, today you will be with me in Paradise.”

Luke 23:33-43

My sermon from 27th Sunday after Pentecost – Christ the King Sunday (November 20, 2016) on Luke 23:33-43.

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Red Riding Apocalypse: Veterans, Jesus, and how to live until the end of the world.

When some were speaking about the temple, how it was adorned with beautiful stones and gifts dedicated to God, [Jesus] said, “As for these things that you see, the days will come when not one stone will be left upon another; all will be thrown down.” They asked him, “Teacher, when will this be, and what will be the sign that this is about to take place?” And he said, “Beware that you are not led astray; for many will come in my name and say, ‘I am he!’ and, ‘The time is near!’ Do not go after them. “When you hear of wars and insurrections, do not be terrified; for these things must take place first, but the end will not follow immediately.” Then he said to them, “Nation will rise against nation, and kingdom against kingdom; there will be great earthquakes, and in various places famines and plagues; and there will be dreadful portents and great signs from heaven. “But before all this occurs, they will arrest you and persecute you; they will hand you over to synagogues and prisons, and you will be brought before kings and governors because of my name. This will give you an opportunity to testify. So make up your minds not to prepare your defense in advance; for I will give you words and a wisdom that none of your opponents will be able to withstand or contradict. You will be betrayed even by parents and brothers, by relatives and friends; and they will put some of you to death. You will be hated by all because of my name. But not a hair of your head will perish. By your endurance you will gain your souls.

Luke 21:5-19

My sermon from 26th Sunday after Pentecost (November 13, 2016) on Luke 21:5-19.

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Do To: a sermon on All Saints’ Sunday staring Jesus, Coming Down, and the 2016 Election.

[Jesus] came down with them and stood on a level place, with a great crowd of his disciples and a great multitude of people from all Judea, Jerusalem, and the coast of Tyre and Sidon. They had come to hear him and to be healed of their diseases; and those who were troubled with unclean spirits were cured. And all in the crowd were trying to touch him, for power came out from him and healed all of them.

Then he looked up at his disciples and said: “Blessed are you who are poor, for yours is the kingdom of God. “Blessed are you who are hungry now, for you will be filled. “Blessed are you who weep now, for you will laugh. “Blessed are you when people hate you, and when they exclude you, revile you, and defame you on account of the Son of Man. Rejoice in that day and leap for joy, for surely your reward is great in heaven; for that is what their ancestors did to the prophets. “But woe to you who are rich, for you have received your consolation. “Woe to you who are full now, for you will be hungry. “Woe to you who are laughing now, for you will mourn and weep. “Woe to you when all speak well of you, for that is what their ancestors did to the false prophets.

“But I say to you that listen, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. If anyone strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also; and from anyone who takes away your coat do not withhold even your shirt. Give to everyone who begs from you; and if anyone takes away your goods, do not ask for them again. Do to others as you would have them do to you.

Luke 6:17-31

My sermon from All Saints’ Sunday (November 6, 2016) on Luke 6:17-31.

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Re-what? a sermon on Reformation Sunday about Jesus and former believers.

Then Jesus said to the Jews who had believed in him, “If you continue in my word, you are truly my disciples; and you will know the truth, and the truth will make you free.” They answered him, “We are descendants of Abraham and have never been slaves to anyone. What do you mean by saying, ‘You will be made free’?” Jesus answered them, “Very truly, I tell you, everyone who commits sin is a slave to sin. The slave does not have a permanent place in the household; the son has a place there forever. So if the Son makes you free, you will be free indeed.

John 8:31-36

My sermon from the 24rd Sunday After Pentecost – Reformation Sunday (October 30, 2016) on John 8:31-36.

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Standing By Himself: a sermon on a Philistine, a tax collector, and more than 2 choices.

He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous and regarded others with contempt: ‘Two men went up to the temple to pray, one a Pharisee and the other a tax-collector. The Pharisee, standing by himself, was praying thus, “God, I thank you that I am not like other people: thieves, rogues, adulterers, or even like this tax-collector. I fast twice a week; I give a tenth of all my income.” But the tax-collector, standing far off, would not even look up to heaven, but was beating his breast and saying, “God, be merciful to me, a sinner!” I tell you, this man went down to his home justified rather than the other; for all who exalt themselves will be humbled, but all who humble themselves will be exalted.’

Luke 18:9-14

My sermon from the 23rd Sunday After Pentecost (October 23, 2016) on Luke 18:9-14.

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